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Will's avatar

This can be very obvious to people who become bilingual later in life and seemingly find themselves with two different personalities. Usually the second language speaker finds it much easier to say "I love you", ask for a raise, etc.

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> One of the interesting things about all of this is that there was nothing particularly inventive about the strategies my husband deployed

While I was reading the stalker story, I thought the moral of it would be that the stalker was Actually Trying.

> Have I done my best to come up with a set of potential solutions, using all the resources I have? Am I doing as well by myself as I would by any friend who came to me with the same problem? How do I know I’m Actually Trying?

"Am I as determined as Cate's stalker?"

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