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Kyle Jennings's avatar

Love the idea of "path of least embarrassment."

It reminds me of an idea I heard David Whyte share on the Tim Ferriss Show, about how most of us create a life we don't truly care about or close ourselves off from fully caring - because we're afraid of the inevitable heartbreak that's part of life.

I pulled it from the transcript if you're interested:

"All of us spend so much time trying to find a path, where we won’t have our heart broken. And really, the only way you can find a path where your heart won’t break is by not caring. Finding a path where you don’t care about things or other people, that’s the ultimate protection against heartbreak.

But then, you live a life in the abstract. You live a life that never makes any real sense. You live a life of loneliness. So finding out what you care about, even though we try and find a path where we won’t have our heartbreak, and you’re going to have your heart broken anyway, so we might as well get with the program, and have our heartbreak broken over something that we actually care about."

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Alyssa Schindler's avatar

Years ago, I took a mixed martial arts class to try to spark some enthusiasm for physical exercise. But I was so embarrassed about looking stupid that I spent a ridiculous amount on a grappling dummy I called Paulo so I could practice my moves in the comfort of my own home. Three months of practicing with Paolo didn't teach me as much as a single rolling session where I repeatedly tapped out within seconds. The moat of low status is real.

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